9.30.2008
Christy and steven attempting to buckle
9.24.2008
My outlook
I've been thinking again, and yes, I am aware of the fact that my thoughts usually get so complex that I can hardly organize them onto paper. And then I get a headache and need to dig myself out of my mind.
I feel as though work has been going far better than ever. I am truly embracing the idea of me using this as an opportunity to share Christ with my co-workers. Ashamedly, I cannot say as though I have done so yet. This is partly due to the fact that we are, well, forbidden to talk religion or politics at work. And they STRICTLY enforce this. I believe, however, that God is using other methods through my actions to show them how I am different. I hope that I am living as a good example, and am fairly confident that I am succeeding at times.
I could hardly believe how some of my co-workers treat our customers. I have always had the mindset that the customer is always right, no matter how "right" they may actually be. We are to smile, act friendly, and be accomodating even when we may not think they deserve this.
There are two ladies that come in about every other day to get drinks for some doctors and nurses that they work with at the hospital nearby. They provide us with a list of about ten to twelve drinks and names, and are always friendly. But every time they come in, my fellow employees get these horrible attitudes and are like, "don't put the drinks on a drink tray for them, make them do it themselves" and "don't write the names on the cups, it takes too long and they don't deserve it". Since I've been gone a lot, I figured they must have done something HORRIBLY offensive to earn this sort of treatment. So I asked why they are so disliked. My shift manager says, "well, they come in every day, and they have ALL these drinks, and they NEVER tip. It's so annoying." And she proceeds to make fun of them. And all of this is just because they don't TIP? I was thoroughly disgusted with my coworkers. So, since I was the designated drink maker, I defiantly put the names on the cups, put them on the tray, etc. And I kept smiling at them and making conversation, and just treating them very respectfully. Anyway, when they were about to leave, one of the ladies said to me, "We really appreciate you being so friendly and nice to us, it means so much to us." And she smile and went on her way.
I can tell you that I felt like I did the right thing. And this is only one instance like this that I have experiences in the past few days all because I chose to smile when no one else would.
What gives people the right to demand tips? Or even just things in general? We are owed nothing. We come into this world with nothing, we will leave with nothing. And most importantly, we deserve nothing.
So keep smiling, even when others cannot understand why you are doing so. It is so rewarding!
I feel as though work has been going far better than ever. I am truly embracing the idea of me using this as an opportunity to share Christ with my co-workers. Ashamedly, I cannot say as though I have done so yet. This is partly due to the fact that we are, well, forbidden to talk religion or politics at work. And they STRICTLY enforce this. I believe, however, that God is using other methods through my actions to show them how I am different. I hope that I am living as a good example, and am fairly confident that I am succeeding at times.
I could hardly believe how some of my co-workers treat our customers. I have always had the mindset that the customer is always right, no matter how "right" they may actually be. We are to smile, act friendly, and be accomodating even when we may not think they deserve this.
There are two ladies that come in about every other day to get drinks for some doctors and nurses that they work with at the hospital nearby. They provide us with a list of about ten to twelve drinks and names, and are always friendly. But every time they come in, my fellow employees get these horrible attitudes and are like, "don't put the drinks on a drink tray for them, make them do it themselves" and "don't write the names on the cups, it takes too long and they don't deserve it". Since I've been gone a lot, I figured they must have done something HORRIBLY offensive to earn this sort of treatment. So I asked why they are so disliked. My shift manager says, "well, they come in every day, and they have ALL these drinks, and they NEVER tip. It's so annoying." And she proceeds to make fun of them. And all of this is just because they don't TIP? I was thoroughly disgusted with my coworkers. So, since I was the designated drink maker, I defiantly put the names on the cups, put them on the tray, etc. And I kept smiling at them and making conversation, and just treating them very respectfully. Anyway, when they were about to leave, one of the ladies said to me, "We really appreciate you being so friendly and nice to us, it means so much to us." And she smile and went on her way.
I can tell you that I felt like I did the right thing. And this is only one instance like this that I have experiences in the past few days all because I chose to smile when no one else would.
What gives people the right to demand tips? Or even just things in general? We are owed nothing. We come into this world with nothing, we will leave with nothing. And most importantly, we deserve nothing.
So keep smiling, even when others cannot understand why you are doing so. It is so rewarding!
9.22.2008
We're leaving disneyworld...im so sad. I
9.20.2008
We ate at boma tonight, it is so good! B
9.19.2008
Sunbathing in florida. Its so hot here b
9.18.2008
9.16.2008
Abbey on a leash. And fascinated with a
Greedy ducks. Or birds. Whatever they ar
9.15.2008
Almost to disneyworld!! I feel like a ch
Im feeling like shawn spencer. Noticing
9.13.2008
9.12.2008
Preppy
Last night at Satellite, Mia said I am preppy. I don't know how I feel about this. So it started a discussion as to what I am. Mia said it was a good preppy, not a Hollister preppy. Chris said that I have "Jackie Kennedy" style...weird. And btw, Christy is included in this also. Anyhow, Monique agreed that I have that style. But I do not wear dress up skirt suits.
So I argued this a little bit, to which they replied, "No, I think it's a really good thing!!"
So I said, sarcastically, "Maybe I should just start wearing those little hats she wore."
To which they countered, "Yes, you should! That would complete the whole ensemble! It would be cute!" And, yes, they were being dead serious about this.
I don't know what to think about this.
But I am what I am.
Do I like what I am?
I thought I did, but I don't know how I like being called "preppy".
End of story
So I argued this a little bit, to which they replied, "No, I think it's a really good thing!!"
So I said, sarcastically, "Maybe I should just start wearing those little hats she wore."
To which they countered, "Yes, you should! That would complete the whole ensemble! It would be cute!" And, yes, they were being dead serious about this.
I don't know what to think about this.
But I am what I am.
Do I like what I am?
I thought I did, but I don't know how I like being called "preppy".
End of story
9.11.2008
Monique at satellite with all of us. It
Alone
My family is in Florida now, but I am at home...school and work suck, they really do. But I'm sure you already know that. The upside is that I will meet them all there on Monday. I'm pretty sure that they're doing all the fun stuff before I get there though, and when I get there they'll be like, "Oh, you wanted to do that today? Well, we already did that like FIVE times. Sorry, we're just going to sleep now."
Tonight I'm going with Mia to Urban Outfitters and then we're going to Renovate, because I haven't been to church in a week now. I'm excited about the former, though. I know I'm going to fall in love with something and buy it, I just know it. It's just such a BEAUTIFUL store! I'll send a picture from there later on so you can see just how beautiful it is.
Corey (the boy I liked a year ago but don't "like like" anymore) randomly invited me to the Kanye West concert in April, and that was the last time I heard from him. Today he texted me to come to his bbq party on Saturday night. I don't know if it will be wild. Probably not, but I don't know for sure.
Should I go?
I think I will go.
Tonight I'm going with Mia to Urban Outfitters and then we're going to Renovate, because I haven't been to church in a week now. I'm excited about the former, though. I know I'm going to fall in love with something and buy it, I just know it. It's just such a BEAUTIFUL store! I'll send a picture from there later on so you can see just how beautiful it is.
Corey (the boy I liked a year ago but don't "like like" anymore) randomly invited me to the Kanye West concert in April, and that was the last time I heard from him. Today he texted me to come to his bbq party on Saturday night. I don't know if it will be wild. Probably not, but I don't know for sure.
Should I go?
I think I will go.
9.10.2008
My head...
It hurts so much. I still think that I might be dying, so we will see. Who gets sick 3 times in four weeks? Me, that's who. No one else. And falling asleep at odd times of the day all day, not to mention hitting the sack at 8:30 is unacceptable and certainly is growing old.
Now I am going to go load up on drugs.
The legal kind though.
Now I am going to go load up on drugs.
The legal kind though.
9.09.2008
Ho-o-o-mework
9.07.2008
I made these!
Defense mechanisms.
Defense mechanisms are really interesting to me, I find myself looking at other people in order to understand which defense mechanism they utilize. I promise, this is my last post today. I just wanted to get this information out there. And what better place to do it then here, where my thoughts are broadcasted for all to see? Here are my thoughts on defense mechanisms. Enjoy!
"Being the humans that we are, our beings naturally come across thoughts and desires that are both acceptable and maybe even some that are considered socially unacceptable. We are aware of what we do with these good thoughts and desires; we act on them daily. But what do we do with the unacceptable half of these? Our bodies and beings react differently to these thoughts and desires, and most employ certain attitudes and actions to attempt to suppress or channel these things. How we deal with our thoughts and desires is widely known as our defense mechanisms. There are many different defense mechanisms, and the use of them differs in variety from person to person.
Three of these defense mechanisms are as follows. First off, there is one known as “sublimation”. Sublimation is the act of channeling these socially unacceptable thoughts and attitudes into acceptable situations or activities that really have hardly anything to do with what we are feeling. For example, a high-school-aged young man may be having trouble at home in that he can never live up to his dad’s high expectations and therefore ends up in constant argument with him. All this pent up frustration and anger is then spent at his high school in football practice and games where he is able to run off this energy and tackle to his heart’s desire. The second of these mechanisms is known as “displacement”. Displacement is when one takes out his or her anger at someone or something on another person or thing not involved in the situation at all. For example, a husband and wife are in constant argument and causing much tension within their household. However, instead of solving the issues with one another, the father begins taking out his anger on his children, yelling at them, and perhaps physically or mentally abusing them. The last of the three defense mechanisms I am going to discuss is known as “denial”. Denial is the defense mechanism that a person may use that means that they will not accept that there is anything going on that should be troubling them, whereas there actually is. They just refuse to acknowledge that there is anything worth recognizing. For example, a man is dating a young woman and is in deeply in love with her. However, the feeling was not entirely mutual and the young woman breaks up with the man. The man is so hurt and so in love that he refuses to accept the fact that their relationship has come to an end that he does not stop calling her, referring to her as his girlfriend, and saying she is only “taking a vacation” to explain her absence. All of these forms of defense mechanisms are so very commonly used, yet some are obviously more drastic than others, as shown in the “denial” form.
A good example of someone dealing with the “displacement” variety of defense mechanisms is shown through the character of Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice (both the film and the classic book). His life has been difficult, and has been drastically stabbed in the back by a close friend of the family—hurting him deeply. As a result of these actions against him, he takes out his anger towards the man to all whom he encounters, especially his love interest, Elizabeth. Even as he begins to fall into love with her, he finds it hard to express the love because of his constant coldness and anger that he exhibits much of the time. Though he is not angry with Elizabeth, his attitudes always come across as such because of other circumstances which feel out of his control.
Defense mechanisms are complicated things that we all employ, mostly on a daily basis. Though we all may utilize different forms of them, we all use them just the same to give the same effect, to “deal with unwanted thoughts and desires”. (Burger, 2008, pg. 48)
References
Burger, J.M. (2008). Personality. 7th ed. Belmont, CA: Thomson Wadsworth."
"Being the humans that we are, our beings naturally come across thoughts and desires that are both acceptable and maybe even some that are considered socially unacceptable. We are aware of what we do with these good thoughts and desires; we act on them daily. But what do we do with the unacceptable half of these? Our bodies and beings react differently to these thoughts and desires, and most employ certain attitudes and actions to attempt to suppress or channel these things. How we deal with our thoughts and desires is widely known as our defense mechanisms. There are many different defense mechanisms, and the use of them differs in variety from person to person.
Three of these defense mechanisms are as follows. First off, there is one known as “sublimation”. Sublimation is the act of channeling these socially unacceptable thoughts and attitudes into acceptable situations or activities that really have hardly anything to do with what we are feeling. For example, a high-school-aged young man may be having trouble at home in that he can never live up to his dad’s high expectations and therefore ends up in constant argument with him. All this pent up frustration and anger is then spent at his high school in football practice and games where he is able to run off this energy and tackle to his heart’s desire. The second of these mechanisms is known as “displacement”. Displacement is when one takes out his or her anger at someone or something on another person or thing not involved in the situation at all. For example, a husband and wife are in constant argument and causing much tension within their household. However, instead of solving the issues with one another, the father begins taking out his anger on his children, yelling at them, and perhaps physically or mentally abusing them. The last of the three defense mechanisms I am going to discuss is known as “denial”. Denial is the defense mechanism that a person may use that means that they will not accept that there is anything going on that should be troubling them, whereas there actually is. They just refuse to acknowledge that there is anything worth recognizing. For example, a man is dating a young woman and is in deeply in love with her. However, the feeling was not entirely mutual and the young woman breaks up with the man. The man is so hurt and so in love that he refuses to accept the fact that their relationship has come to an end that he does not stop calling her, referring to her as his girlfriend, and saying she is only “taking a vacation” to explain her absence. All of these forms of defense mechanisms are so very commonly used, yet some are obviously more drastic than others, as shown in the “denial” form.
A good example of someone dealing with the “displacement” variety of defense mechanisms is shown through the character of Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice (both the film and the classic book). His life has been difficult, and has been drastically stabbed in the back by a close friend of the family—hurting him deeply. As a result of these actions against him, he takes out his anger towards the man to all whom he encounters, especially his love interest, Elizabeth. Even as he begins to fall into love with her, he finds it hard to express the love because of his constant coldness and anger that he exhibits much of the time. Though he is not angry with Elizabeth, his attitudes always come across as such because of other circumstances which feel out of his control.
Defense mechanisms are complicated things that we all employ, mostly on a daily basis. Though we all may utilize different forms of them, we all use them just the same to give the same effect, to “deal with unwanted thoughts and desires”. (Burger, 2008, pg. 48)
References
Burger, J.M. (2008). Personality. 7th ed. Belmont, CA: Thomson Wadsworth."
Freud was a nutcase but I study his theories.
I am a psychology major, and I love it! I am hoping to go into counseling, either working with pro-life organizations or doing marriage and family counseling.
I am taking a class called Theories of Personality right now, and it is quite interesting. This week I had a discussion with my professor and classmates about our unconsious mind. The unconcious portion of the self is quite interesting, I find that though we give it little or no credit most of the time, it drives what we do. This is not to say we do not have access to this part of the mind, but actually it is what gives fuel to the things we do which we do not take the time to think about. Freud proposed the idea that all things are done intentionally--well, at least that nothing is done by accident. He believed that even accidents were the intentional actions of the unconcious working to get its point across. I highly disagree with this idea. We are not clever enough for things to be this complex, but rather, being the sinful beings we are, it is only natural that we commit "accidental actions" on somewhat of a daily basis.
Freud was crazy, my textbook says he died of cancer, but I found out through other sources that, while he did suffer from cancer, he in actuality committed suicide.
Here is a glimpse into a portion of my part of the discussion we had this week.
"It is fascinating to realize to what extent Freud attributed our personality to its unconscious dynamics. The majority of humans are vastly unaware of the effect our unconscious mind has on our being—what we think, do, believe, etc. I found it quite interesting reading the following from Jerry M. Burger (2008), “…if you are like most adults in this culture, you freely accept the idea that what you do is sometimes influence by an unconscious part of your mind.” (pg. 41) We overuse the phrase, “I must have done that unconsciously”, without thinking about what that sentence entails. I think we attribute our mistakes or unexplainable patterns of behavior to our unconscious being. My explanation for this is that perhaps it is a result of information we have stored away and have not used for some time. And, unlike Freud, I believe that mere accidents exist, without having hidden motives behind them. I do, however, believe that there are instances in which what we do is a direct result of our unconscious mind—just not everything is so.
I am aware of the fact that much of who I am is influenced by my unconscious mind. I look to my growing up years and experiences to understand who I am today. My family was ever-supportive, encouraging, yet not indulgent, and surrounded me with unconditional love that represented Christ. My entire personality and all that I do is a result of these experiences—my optimistic demeanor, hopeful attitude, moral decisions, and life priorities. This is how I recognize the unconscious influences in others’ behaviors as well. Although because it is difficult to be able to point out why others do what they do, I believe it is possible to do so when you are familiar with them beyond being mere acquaintances.
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References
Burger, J.M. (2008). Personality. 7th ed. Belmont, CA: Thomson Wadsworth."
I am taking a class called Theories of Personality right now, and it is quite interesting. This week I had a discussion with my professor and classmates about our unconsious mind. The unconcious portion of the self is quite interesting, I find that though we give it little or no credit most of the time, it drives what we do. This is not to say we do not have access to this part of the mind, but actually it is what gives fuel to the things we do which we do not take the time to think about. Freud proposed the idea that all things are done intentionally--well, at least that nothing is done by accident. He believed that even accidents were the intentional actions of the unconcious working to get its point across. I highly disagree with this idea. We are not clever enough for things to be this complex, but rather, being the sinful beings we are, it is only natural that we commit "accidental actions" on somewhat of a daily basis.
Freud was crazy, my textbook says he died of cancer, but I found out through other sources that, while he did suffer from cancer, he in actuality committed suicide.
Here is a glimpse into a portion of my part of the discussion we had this week.
"It is fascinating to realize to what extent Freud attributed our personality to its unconscious dynamics. The majority of humans are vastly unaware of the effect our unconscious mind has on our being—what we think, do, believe, etc. I found it quite interesting reading the following from Jerry M. Burger (2008), “…if you are like most adults in this culture, you freely accept the idea that what you do is sometimes influence by an unconscious part of your mind.” (pg. 41) We overuse the phrase, “I must have done that unconsciously”, without thinking about what that sentence entails. I think we attribute our mistakes or unexplainable patterns of behavior to our unconscious being. My explanation for this is that perhaps it is a result of information we have stored away and have not used for some time. And, unlike Freud, I believe that mere accidents exist, without having hidden motives behind them. I do, however, believe that there are instances in which what we do is a direct result of our unconscious mind—just not everything is so.
I am aware of the fact that much of who I am is influenced by my unconscious mind. I look to my growing up years and experiences to understand who I am today. My family was ever-supportive, encouraging, yet not indulgent, and surrounded me with unconditional love that represented Christ. My entire personality and all that I do is a result of these experiences—my optimistic demeanor, hopeful attitude, moral decisions, and life priorities. This is how I recognize the unconscious influences in others’ behaviors as well. Although because it is difficult to be able to point out why others do what they do, I believe it is possible to do so when you are familiar with them beyond being mere acquaintances.
Word Count:_301_
References
Burger, J.M. (2008). Personality. 7th ed. Belmont, CA: Thomson Wadsworth."
Today is different.
Much of the time, I happen to blog from my phone. Not that this is necessarily 100 percent intentional, but rather because it's convenient when I am constantly on the run. So today I visited this blog for the first time in a week or so, but was slightly displeased with what I found. I am a silly person, apparently. I joke around on here too much, so it is time for me to be a little bit serious.
It is Sunday morning, and no, I am not planning on going to church. Call me a heathen, but I've gone two times so far this week and gas is like gold. Combine that with the fact that my church is 2o minutes away, and you've got a recipe for bankruptcy. Well not exactly, but it gets the point across well.
My parents are gone. John and Jeremiah and Airielle and Abigail are at church. Christy is STILL sleeping. I am alone, and the house is peaceful. Christy and I decided that we have had enough "running around" for the week and are staying home today. Unless we decide to go see a dollar movie, but we will just have to see.
Last night I had a study date--with myself. Yes, both of my study mates bailed out on me, but it was actually for the better because I got a lot more stuff done. After I finished packing my brain with theories from Alfred Adler and Carl Jung, I picked Christy up from church and met Monique at Targer--for no reason, really. I have been having some trouble with my allergies, sore throat, intense headaches, and a stuffy nose. Needlesstosay I took my allergy medication on my way from Target to Flying Star (cafe/coffee shop) where we again met up with Monique and drank iced chai and read their endless supply of magazines. And I do not exaggerate here, they have magazines I did not even realize that people had the imaginations to think up. Anyway, all of a sudden, Christy poked me. She and Monique were laughing at me. Apparently I was falling asleep. And also, I did not realize that I had been doing this probably 10 times after that. So 11pm came and Christy told me that I had better drive home before I was too far gone to be able to drive home. Boy, was it hard to stay awake on the ride home! Thankfully, we rolled the windows down, turned the music up, and Christy kept me talking the whole way home.
Before all this happened yesterday, Bekah texted me once again to ask if Christy and I would be interested in moving in with her. The price is actually pretty good, the house cute, and the location is great. I called my mom and she said it looks like a good offer, so we're going to sit down together when she gets home and work through my finances to see if I will be able to cut it or not.
It is Sunday morning, and no, I am not planning on going to church. Call me a heathen, but I've gone two times so far this week and gas is like gold. Combine that with the fact that my church is 2o minutes away, and you've got a recipe for bankruptcy. Well not exactly, but it gets the point across well.
My parents are gone. John and Jeremiah and Airielle and Abigail are at church. Christy is STILL sleeping. I am alone, and the house is peaceful. Christy and I decided that we have had enough "running around" for the week and are staying home today. Unless we decide to go see a dollar movie, but we will just have to see.
Last night I had a study date--with myself. Yes, both of my study mates bailed out on me, but it was actually for the better because I got a lot more stuff done. After I finished packing my brain with theories from Alfred Adler and Carl Jung, I picked Christy up from church and met Monique at Targer--for no reason, really. I have been having some trouble with my allergies, sore throat, intense headaches, and a stuffy nose. Needlesstosay I took my allergy medication on my way from Target to Flying Star (cafe/coffee shop) where we again met up with Monique and drank iced chai and read their endless supply of magazines. And I do not exaggerate here, they have magazines I did not even realize that people had the imaginations to think up. Anyway, all of a sudden, Christy poked me. She and Monique were laughing at me. Apparently I was falling asleep. And also, I did not realize that I had been doing this probably 10 times after that. So 11pm came and Christy told me that I had better drive home before I was too far gone to be able to drive home. Boy, was it hard to stay awake on the ride home! Thankfully, we rolled the windows down, turned the music up, and Christy kept me talking the whole way home.
Before all this happened yesterday, Bekah texted me once again to ask if Christy and I would be interested in moving in with her. The price is actually pretty good, the house cute, and the location is great. I called my mom and she said it looks like a good offer, so we're going to sit down together when she gets home and work through my finances to see if I will be able to cut it or not.
9.06.2008
I made chocolate covered marshmallows on
9.05.2008
I got a pedicure today for florida. My f
Kids are getting heavier. Thats why we n
9.02.2008
This is my muscle, it belongs to my left
9.01.2008
Im reading these for theories of persona
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